Collaborative Divorce Network of Greater Vancouver

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    15/12/2016
    How Family Counselling Can Help Bring 2 Christmases Together for Your Children

    When families are separated or divorced at Christmas time, things often don’t add up like they used to.


    Clients often come to me as a Divorce Coach with many unanswered questions from their children about what Christmas is going to look like now that they’re living in two separate homes. Christmas is known to be an emotional time for family: the heightened excitement of children and their anticipation of gift-opening; the hastened and hectic pace at which the family is moving; the frantic buying of gifts and decorating the home.

    We all want the holidays to be a happy time for family to come together. If you are part of a divorced family, this may highlight your “separate-ness”, and things feel different and unfamiliar to you. This can make Christmas time feel new and uncomfortable, as it asks for new routines to be implemented in order to keep the peace. Family counselling in Richmond BC may be the solution for you!

    We at Collaborative Divorce Network, encourage you to see yourselves as two new, restructured families. This often means that we help you create a parenting schedule that splits Christmas time between the two parents, in a balanced fashion. You may also find it useful to see us for family counselling as you consider yourself to be low-conflict in front of the kids, and would like to learn some healthy guidelines to help your family celebrate Christmas together.

    Some parents come to me struggling, as any of us parents would, with the emotional stress of divorce, and find themselves feeling very alone at this time of year. Their temptation may be to reunite as a family, for the sake of the children, to carry on past family holiday traditions.

    If this sounds like you, you are best to book an appointment in Richmond BC so that we may carefully consider all factors that might influence your children with experienced family counselling.

    Children are like sponges; like a sponge, they absorb the energy around them. They tend to be acutely aware of their parents’ conflict from a very young age. Often children may have wishful or magical thinking that may provide false hope in their parents getting back together. For some, it might be their only Christmas wish. This is where we exercise caution and urge parents to be careful in this decision making process. The expertise found in the Divorce Coaches at Collaborative Divorce Network can provide a comprehensive plan to help your family find more peace at Christmas.

    There’s no Christmas cookie-cutter approach that is going to work for every family. We respect that each family is unique and individual factors must be considered. In some cases, when parent conflict is lower, some families can find joy in spending Christmas together.

    To truly have a merry Christmas may mean having two Christmases, with love, laughter and joy underneath two trees. As parents, your ‘presence’ is your children’s best ‘present’ – even if it means you have to love them from two separate homes. Call Collaborative Divorce Network in Richmond BC today to book an appointment with our team for family counselling so we can help make a schedule for your family this holiday.

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  • family headshots
    14/12/2016
    ​Vancouver Divorce Lawyer on Collaborative and Litigation Practice

    What better season than Halloween to reflect on the essential difference between collaborative practice and litigation, i.e. the adversarial process that uses the courts to referee and ultimately decide disputes. While neither process purports to be the only answer; as one size rarely fits all, the horror show that litigation often is, involves people frequently putting on their "Halloween Masks" to use intimidation, threats, cost, and endless unilateral acts (calculated or otherwise) to gain advantage;....usually at the expense of the family's emotional and financial health.

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Spousal and Child Support

Our trained and experienced collaborative lawyers will help you understand the options that are available to you and your spouse and help you to reach a resolution that meets the highest needs of you, your spouse and your children.


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Separation Agreements

A separation agreement confirms the resolution that you and your spouse reach. The collaborative professionals at Collaborative Divorce Network are skilled at helping you to transition through divorce in a respectful and cost efficient manner.

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Children and Divorce

Children can be caught in the middle of the struggle between separating parents. Sometimes the parents don’t realize that this is happening. The collaborative professionals with Collaborative Divorce Network strive to assist the parents placing the children in the center and not the middle!


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Parenting Plans

The divorce coaches will help you to resolve a parenting plan that best meets the needs of you, your spouse and your children going forward.

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Division of Property and Debts

If you wish to exercise a financially savvy strategy during the divorce process, the collaborative lawyers at Collaborative Divorce Network can assist you to best reach your financial goals.


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Cohabitation and Marriage Agreements

Agreeing in advance on how to deal with major life events can free a couple to enjoy the present and relieve anxiety about managing issues in the future.

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Child and Spousal Support

Many clients are fearful of support obligations. The paying spouse is fearful of having to pay support that is beyond his or her capacity to pay. The receiving spouse is fearful of…


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Divorce Coaches

Get the help you need to understand and handle your feelings in a healthy way with divorce coaches through the Collaborative Divorce Network. Our Team includes qualified and compassionate…

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Unmarried Spouses

The Family Law Act in British Columbia has changed the legal framework in many ways - most significantly, spouses in a marriage-like relationship who have lived together…

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Children and Divorce

If you are considering a divorce and you have young children, their emotional and mental stability is undoubtedly your greatest concern. While research has proven the remarkable resiliency of children…

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Parenting Plans

A parenting plan is an agreement that separating parents develop together about how they will share parenting time and the day-to-day responsibilities of parenting…


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Separation Agreements

When relationships come to an end, challenges often arise when children are involved, when a spouse has inherited property or come into the relationship with more property than…

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Family Law

The ending of a marriage or relationship can be tumultuous. Coping day-to-day with this new reality is difficult enough, much less worrying about the long-term impact…


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Spouses without Children

Divorces that don’t involve children aren’t necessarily less complicated. These spouses need to reach resolution with respect to family, property, family debts and support obligations…


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Cohabitation and Marriage Agreements

Coming to an agreement in advance to deal with life’s contingencies can be a freeing experience for spouses. Establishing the framework for managing major issues when they are not…

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GENERAL INFORMATION

Collaborative Divorce Network

778-732-1375

info@nocourtdivorcebc.com

Shelley Behr

Divorce Coach/Child Specialist

Garth Edwards

Lawyer

Robert W. Mostar

Lawyer

Susan Vanderwerff

Divorce Coach/Child Specialist

Angiola De Stefanis

Lawyer

Deirdre Severide

Lawyer

Danny Zack

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